People often speak of the resilience of children, and that’s true, in that they find a way to survive physically and emotionally. But it’s not true that children slough off the effects of childhood family dysfunction, traumatic events and patterns, physical abuse, sexual abuse, or child neglect. They suffer deep emotional pain and are changed for the rest of their lives.
Nobody likes to feel painful emotions. As a society we do everything we can not to feel them: we numb them with substances, food, the media or other addictions, we block them out by over-scheduling, we deflect them, project them, anything to avoid the pain.